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“Love yourself” is advice we hear all the time. But for many people, it doesn’t land as something comforting, it feels confusing, unrealistic, or even uncomfortable. If self-care feels awkward, selfish, or impossible, there’s nothing wrong with you. The ability to care for yourself is not automatic, it’s learned. And for many of us, it was never modelled. This blog explores why we struggle with self-love, what self-care actually is (and isn’t), and why learning to care for yo

Burnout doesn’t always look like falling apart. For many single mothers, it looks like getting up every day, doing what needs to be done, and quietly running on empty. You keep going because you have to. There’s no pause button. No handover. No real safety net. If you feel exhausted beyond tired, emotionally drained, or like you’re disappearing behind responsibilities, this isn’t a personal failure. It’s burnout. Why Burnout Is So Common in Single Mothers Single mothers carry

Grief is not something we “get over.” It is something we learn to carry. Loss comes in many forms, the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of health, identity, safety, or a life we thought we would have. Grief doesn’t follow rules or timelines, and it doesn’t look the same for everyone. This blog explores what grief is, how it affects us emotionally and physically, the grief cycle, and how we can begin to care for ourselves through loss. What Is Grief? G

Recovery isn’t hard because life suddenly gets worse. Recovery is hard because we stop numbing, and because we enter a period of transition. Change is the decision to stop using. Transition is everything that happens after. For many people in addiction, substances weren’t about chasing pleasure, they were about escaping discomfort. Emotional pain, anxiety, shame, loneliness, boredom, fear. When the substance goes, the feelings don’t disappear. They arrive louder, sharper, and

If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “Why do I always end up here?” , in the same type of relationship, with the same pain, just a different person, you’re not alone. Many people come to therapy feeling confused, frustrated, or ashamed about their relationship choices. They know something isn’t working, but they don’t understand why they keep repeating the same patterns. The answer usually isn’t a lack of insight or willpower. It’s attachment, childhood conditioning, and a n

If you’ve ever gone from calm to overwhelmed in seconds, angry, shut down, anxious, tearful, or numb, you’re not broken. You’re not “too emotional.” And you’re definitely not weak. What you’re experiencing is emotional dysregulation, and it’s far more common than most people realise. In therapy, especially trauma therapy and addiction recovery work, I see how many adults struggle with emotional regulation because they were never taught how to feel, process, or express emotion