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Childhood Trauma and Its Impact on Us as Adults (Blog 4) Many people think of childhood trauma as “big” events, violence, neglect, abuse, loss. But trauma is also the experiences that were too much for us at the time, or the things we needed but didn’t get: safety, protection, emotional connection, consistency, or being seen. And the truth is this: Childhood trauma doesn’t stay in childhood. It shows up in our adult lives in ways we often don’t recognise, through our relation

If you’ve ever felt like there’s a voice in your head constantly judging you, criticising you, or telling you you’re not good enough, you’re not alone. In therapy, I often talk about this part of us as “The Shitty Committee”,  that inner panel of voices that loves to remind you of your mistakes, your fears, and your insecurities. It doesn’t matter how much progress you make… The Shitty Committee always has something to say. But here’s the truth: This voice isn’t the real you.

# Embracing Boundaries: A Path to Healing and Self-Respect ## Understanding the Importance of Boundaries If you grew up being the strong one, the fixer, the peacekeeper, or the person who kept everything together, boundaries can feel… unnatural. Even threatening. For many people I work with, especially those in recovery or healing from trauma, the idea of saying no brings up fear, guilt, and sometimes even shame. It can feel like you’re letting people down, rejecting someone

For years, I thought being strong meant carrying everything alone. I learned how to survive , to hold it together, to keep moving, to make sure no one saw the cracks. But the truth is, surviving isn’t the same as living. Somewhere along the way, I forgot what it meant to feel safe, connected, and enough. Working in the field of addiction and mental health, I met countless people who were doing exactly what I had done , getting through each day the only way they knew how. Som